There's a guy in my drama class, and he's really funny. One time, him and his friend were talking and his friend turned to me and said he talks about you a lot, you two should date." We both got bright red, and before that, I never even thought about 'liking' him like that. I have no idea if he likes me like that. please help me!!
If you are not ballsy enough to straight up ask him if he likes you (because THAT’s so easy to do), then maybe you would be comfortable asking him if he would like to hang out with you sometime. Whether or not you would like to frame that as a date or a casual hang-out is up to you. It is usually easier to tell after a couple of one-on-ones.
In my opinion, the fact that his friend said that to you, in front of him, is a huge indicator that he does like you.
If that’s true, and you have the patience to wait, then maybe he will make the first move!
My wife cheated on me. We have been married for about a year.I found out in a disturbing way and confronted her. She said I wasnt giving her the attention she needed. Heart broken, I didnt leave her. She didnt want to stop contact with him but i forced her to. She didnt want to go counseling but I forced her to. Now she claims she has fallen out of love with me and has lost the lust for me.She thinks if I pay more attention to her then she will love me again. I feel like I have to earn her love back. I asked her what she could do to help our relationship and she said "I dont know, you tell me..." There really isnt much more to this story. Am I trying to hard? Is it right for her to blame me?
The appropriate question here is not “is it right for her to blame you?”. The question is “Do you want to continue your marriage?” and it seems like you do.
In every conflict between two people, there is no one person to blame. If you feel like you just have to place blame, then blame how both of you have been going about your relationship.
How to fix it? Communication and action. It appears you have made a great start in the communication department: 1) She has said what she wants from you is more attention. Ask her what that means and try to give it to her. Check in with her every once in a while. 2) With her response “I don’t know, you tell me…” she is literally asking you tell her what you want from her. Tell her clearly what you think she can do to help your relationship.
You are not trying too hard and it is wrong for her to blame you. It is not just you or just her, it is a (c0mmon!) problem that both of you need to own responsibility for. It sounds like you both want this to work which is a good sign; work together and blame no one.
Good luck! ~M
Me and my boyfriend live 2 hours away from each other were madly in love im pregnant, we're moving in together in 2 months we see each other most weekends! he works all day everyday except weekends we facetime every night but i just miss him cause hes working what to do?
Congratulations on your pregnancy! Seeing as how you are pregnant, asking your man to cut down on his hours is probably not an option. Let him know that you miss him but that you appreciate how hard he is working. When you do get to see each other, make those few moments as special as you can.
Here is the link (click on the picture below) to a website that has many, MANY, ideas on how to do that. Try a couple and remember that these short 2 months will be worth the wait!
Hope this helps! ~M
Okay so I have a huge crush on this guy I've liked him for a while now and at one point I swear he liked me too. Our group of friends hangout all the time and I don't know what to do, should I tell him I like him I feel like It would take some weight off my shoulders I just don't want to make things awkward between us
And everyone knows I like him except him, pretty stupid I know
And he always goes for the youngins all my friends tell me that he thinks he's out of my league and that he's not good enough for me
But everyone tells me I can do better and that I don't need him but I just really like
And I'm just scared of getting rejected
It sounds like you know what you want, but your friends are telling you something different. If you put all of your friends' doubts and warnings aside, it seems that all you are worried about is getting rejected and making it awkward between you.
Two questions you should ask yourself are: 1) How much of what your friends are saying do you agree with/care about? 2) Is getting rejected and potentially making it awkward worth finding out if he feels the same way about you and lifting that weight off your shoulders?
My opinion? You will never know until you try! The worst that can happen is that you will get rejected, but that is the world of dating... rejections happen, learn from them and move on. About the potential post-rejection awkwardness: things are only awkward if you make it awkward. If he makes it awkward, well then maybe he's not emotionally mature enough to handle a relationship in the first place!
You are woman. Go get your man. If he doesn't want you, then you didn't want him anyway.
Good luck! ~M
I'm so busy that I don't have a lot of time to eat. I was on a diet for awhile and I'm 5'9 and was 145 pounds but now I'm at least 15 pounds thinner. By looking at myself, I think I look around 125-130 pounds. But I bought a pair of jeans two weeks ago that were a 5 and fit me nicely, and now they're quite baggy so I know I've lost more weight. How can I find the team to eat enough? I don't want to get too thin.
In one sentence: Eat high calorie foods; ideally foods that you like! This way, you don't have to eat all day and/or stress about finding time to eat "enough".
Also, try this application on your mobile device or online: MyFitnessPal. This app asks for your age, current weight, goal weight, and activity level. Most importantly, it asks whether you want to lose, maintain, or gain weight. It also asks how much weight you would like to gain or lose per week. Using this information, it will tell you how many calories you need to eat in one day in order to achieve your goal. Based on personal experience and success with this app (despite heavy doubt and suspicion when I started using it) I am confident it will help you gain back the weight that you have lost.
Hope this helps!
"I know I've posted a 1,000 times already but, I'm really perplexed w/ this situation. After a year of no communication w/ my former bestfriend I find that I'm still in love w/ him. I cut him off because after I told him I had feelings for him, he shot me down then proceeded to ask if he could try to date a close girlfriend of mine. I thought it was cruel of him to even bring her up after what I had just revealed to him, and the fact that he had been conditioning my emotions for the past 8 yrs. was pretty mean too. He had always told me I was the one he really loved, asked me to move in w/ him once before, and had used me sexually years ago while chasing yet another close friend of mine. Well since I cut him off he's moved a girl into his home he barely knew, and within a month she got pregnant. This is after she told him she was infertile... yeah right. Well now after a year of us not speaking, him having a baby on the way, and talks of marrying this girl he decides he wants to get in contact w/ me. A mutual friend of ours tells me he asks about me everyday, and if he should call me. He's already sent me an email, I didn't respond to, telling me he's going to be a dad but no I'm sorry for hurting you, or even mention of his girlfriend. All through the 8 yrs of our friendship I felt dragged around, led on, and convenient. I'm trying to get on w/ life w/o him in it but, it bothers me yet makes me a little curious as to what he wants from me now. I think it's either guilt, or him needing me during a stressful time in his life. Regardless, I can't be his friend again if that's what he wants. I can't even hear his voice on the phone for fear it will still be too painful.
If he tries to call should I hear him out, or continue to ignore him? He knows exactly why I had to let him go because, I explained it to him a year ago."
First off, I would like to commend you for being strong and smart enough to know that you needed to let your friend go- and I use the term 'friend' loosely. To answer your question, ask yourself these questions: What benefits are there if you hear him out? What would be the consequences? Weigh the answers to these questions to help make your decision.
If he truly does know why you had to let him go (as you said), then I see no problem ignoring him if you feel that would be best for your own emotional well being. It seems as if hearing him out would benefit him more than you, and potentially lead to more feelings of being "dragged around, led on, and convenient".
Even when a cutoff is obviously necessary, that does not mean that it is an easy decision to make. If he is using you as some sort of "convenient" crutch, perhaps it may help you to consider that ignoring him may be best for him in the long run as well. Tough love, and all that.
Readers, what do you think she should do?